Abraham, who we're going to call a happiness expert, said, if you don't want something in your life, don't wrestle it to the ground, just leave it behind.
For example, if this year you want to overcome procrastination, don't try to wrestle her to the ground. Because even if you win, you'll just find yourself par terre rolling around with her. You still haven't done anything.
Better to forget about her and get to work.
Any head-on wrestling only engages the unwanted thing more. This reminds me of the advice I was given in Jr. High regarding how to handle boys who showed their interest by calling me a sewer rat and writing all over my desk. Just ignore them and they will stop...though they may try to connect with you 20 years later via Facebook.
So whatever you want to leave behind from 2013, just drop it and start thinking about what you do want. It's more productive to focus on anything you want, even a new pair of boots, rather than rehashing some relationship or emotion you don't want. Not sure how this works, but it seems to.
Bonne chance et bo
Sarah Federman, PhD
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